You Know What They Say about ASSumptions

So, yesterday after I presented the "5 Steps to Turn Your Inner B into Your Inner BFF" masterclass, I sent out the replay with a bum link to more than 200 people.

😢 Totally tear worthy screw up, right?! 😭

😶 As soon as I realized, panic immediately rushed into my chest. My inner B* chimed in loudly - “What a dumba**! There would have been zero issues if you had stopped futzing. And you call yourself a communicator! Now you’re going to bug people and fill up their inbox, and who knows what they’ll think of you…” 🤬

✨ But then, almost like magic, I paused to take a couple of deep breaths. ✨

💭 And I remembered when I was early in my career and had distributed the wrong version of a press release, and couldn’t look my boss in the face or sleep soundly for weeks, running the horrifying moment through my head again and again, I would sure to be fired any day - even though my boss said it was NBD, these things happen. ⁉️

😜 Yesterday I actually LOLed at the memory. No big deal, eh? That’s life, eh? At the time I nowhere close to believed her, but now I know my boss was so wise. 🙏

💃🏼I had been living with the assumption that I had to be 100% flawless, and people would expect no less. That if I made one mistake, I would be fired and viewed as incompetent. I valued perfectionism. I valued non-stop drive. 🏎

👶 And yet, to err is to be human, right? What is the pain of a mistake other than a flood of knowledge rushing in to fill a gap? (Thanks Alexander Pope and Jerry Seinfeld lol!) 👵

😹 So I laughed off my mistake yesterday, leaned into my evolved values of authenticity, hard work and empowerment, and quickly sent out a rectified, second email. 👆

🙆‍♀️ As I breathed, I reassured myself that in reality, everyone has sent emails without things attached, broken links, or spelling someone’s name wrong. I’d be forgiven - if in fact the few people who had opened so quickly before I got the second one out had jumped to hostile phrases (you didn’t, did you?) 😻

🤗 By the time the second email was sent out, my body was relaxed and my mind was free of the original anxious emotion - those constructed feelings disappear after 90 seconds unless you attach a story to them, after all. 🤪

🤣 Even just two year ago I would have said letting something like that go that easily would have been impossible - because it all mattered. 🤣

🕴And yet, yesterday I did let it go, quickly, and I didn’t think about my misstep again until I got an email reply to that second email this morning thanking me for the experience and having signed up for a Creative Wellbeing Discovery Session. 🖍

💓 And of course, no word of the botched email from her .💓

🤔 If you want to learn to “let go,” first you need to know what you’re letting go of, and why. 🤯

🕵️‍♀️ Which is what the first part of the “5 Steps to Turn Your Inner B into Your Inner BFF” Inner Critic Translation exercise we completed on the webinar together was all about. 🎉

🧚‍♀️ Have hope for happy, and remember action creates confidence! 🎉